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The World of Unsolicited Advice

The World of Unsolicited Advice

A couple of weeks ago, I was listening to the ICYMI podcast. The topic was related to internet advice when the conversation veered specifically towards unsolicited advice.

Jenny Desmond: And I feel I feel badly saying this because I have the privilege of giving advice. Everyone wants to be heard and be listened to and feel useful. So maybe thatโ€™s what it comes down to, is that people okay, letโ€™s do a generous read of it, right? People want to be helpful. People want to connect with others. People want to share the knowledge they have. That said, it is incredibly, incredibly annoying. Also, a lot of people are really bad at giving advice. So if itโ€™s going to be unsolicited, at least make it helpful. If I were to go onto Twitter right now and say, Hey guys, does anyone know where I could get a great hamburger in San Diego? I would have 50 replies saying, Well, itโ€™s actually in Texas, but go here or actually get a taco.

ICYMI – What Makes Online Advice Good?

Oh, lawd! This particular part of the conversation resonated with me. I have felt similarly over the years but haven’t found a good way to articulate it. It is in fact incredibly annoying when you share a part of your life, or ask a specific question and someone, who likely under the guise of trying to be helpful, derails, negates, or inadvertently diminishes your experience.

Me: Hey, I saw this cool thing!

Not Me: Yeah, that’s cool, I guess, but what I saw is EVEN COOLER!

Inner Me: Okay, uh, great. So… maybe you should just go ahead and share that on your blog, or whatever.

We are all likely guilty of this to varying degrees. But man, oh, man – I am going to try my best to not continue this type of behavior towards others.

2004 Chevy Corvette C5 Convertible in Millenium Yellow

About a year ago, I experienced something similar in offline life. Admittedly I hang on too tight to some things, but this still has me scratching my head about why someone felt compelled to communicate with me in this way.

I was filling up my car at the gas station on a sunny day. I’d been out bumming around, cruising with the top down, enjoying being alive. A guy pulled up to the pump next to mine, took a business card out of his center console and threw it into the passenger seat of my car.

“When you finally replace this with a new one, give me a call.”

And tell you to go fuck yourself? Sure!

The guy was a car salesman.

Something about this exchange just rubbed me the wrong way. I still view this person as a presumptuous dick. The whole shape of the brief exchange suggested that there is something “wrong” with what I have and that I should replace it. I don’t know how to interpret the sentiment with something other than what I see as judgement, or the application of someone else’s values onto me.

I happen to love my nearly 20-year old car! When I look at it, I think it’s beautiful, and ridiculously colored, and I feel quietly proud of it within myself. Plus, it’s super fun to drive. And perhaps most importantly it has immense sentimental value to me. (And gives me rockstar hair.)

Nikki Sixx called. He wants his hair back.

This exchange at the gas station seemed adjacent to unsolicited advice. I didn’t ask if anyone in the gas station was a car salesman who could help me in the future. Instead someone else’s unwelcome agenda was foisted on me.

In reality someone else’s opinions about my things, or my posts, or my rockstar hair really don’t matter. But, it doesn’t mean I won’t relish being annoyed ๐Ÿ™‚

Long Island Motorcycle Ride Photo Inspiration: Phetus88 Mural

Long Island Motorcycle Ride Photo Inspiration: Phetus88 Mural

Now that I’ve been a Long Islander for just about 20 years, I find that it can be challenging to keep the local Long Island motorcycle ride excitement fires stoked.

Having ridden motorcycles in many different states, and places like the Alps, the American West, the mountains of the south, what I have found over time is that “fun” is all about mindset.

So, when I don’t leave Long Island for a day ride on my motorcycle, it is common for me to go out and do a bit of local exploring. I seek out things like interesting roadside attractions, historical points, or photogenic views.

With this frame of mind, the old adage it’s not the destination, it’s the journey is turned on its head. The ride becomes about the destination. Sure, the ride itself is enjoyable, it is riding after all, but the big payoff is often what’s waiting for me at my planned stop.

Long Island Motorcycle Ride – Photo Inspo

While not typically known for its street art or murals to the same degree as our 5 borough neighbors, Long Island does have some excellent pieces.

In my local travels around the Island over the last few months I’ve been seeking out inspiring works both for myself to enjoy, and with the hope of sharing them.

This collection of photos is of a mural found in the town of Huntington by Long Island artist Phetus88. His monsterous expressionism is such an explosion of color and character you simply can’t tear your eyes away from it.

The first time I saw this wall, my eyes lit up. I just love it!

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long island motorcycle ride inspiration: phetus88 mural on the back of the huntington arts council building
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Visit this Phetus88 Mural in Huntington, NY

If you’d like to visit this awesome Phetus88 mural yourself, it is located on the back side of the Huntington Arts Council building. You won’t be disappointed!

Huntington Arts Council
213 Main St
Huntington, NY 11743
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Ride to Eat: Tuesday Night Supper Club – Burgerology

Ride to Eat: Tuesday Night Supper Club – Burgerology

Burgerology – My Favorite Degree!

On Tuesday nights, I try to meet up with friends to get out and get some air on the bikes. This usually involves a little riding, a little eating, lots of laughing and shit-talking. Burgerology in Huntington was a perfect fit.

yamaha fz07 in huntington new york

Here on Long Island, we have tons of places that now offer outside dining. It’s unfortunate that it took a pandemic to push us in this direction, but I’m happy we’re here. We’ve been sorely lacking a thriving outdoor cafe culture for far too long.

Burgerology now offers sidewalk seating!

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Now, I’m not usually one for posting food photos (donuts don’t count) but this mac & cheese bacon burger on a pretzel bun with truffle fries was really good and I thought you should know about it ๐Ÿ™‚

burgerology mac and cheese burger huntington new york

The burger was so good in fact, that when I spotted it on the menu and said so out loud, someone immediately copied me and ordered the same thing.

As is my right by the ancient laws of restaurant dining, I made sure to tell the waiter that I saw it first and that I was indeed being copied. The waiter, caring deeply with every fiber in his soul, looked at me sympathetically. Or, it might have been the look of who gives a shit? It was dark out.

baby yoda mural in huntington new york

As if the Mac & Cheese burger weren’t enough of a reason to hit this place up ~ on the back-side of the Burgerology building, there is a knockout mural painted by Andaluz the Artist, featuring Baby Yoda holding a cheeseburger. Does it get any better than this?

Amazing food, great artwork and a ride on your motorcycle? A win all the way around!

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Not only did my order get copied, but this guy cockblocked my photo opportunity! Man, with friends like this… ๐Ÿ˜€

I’ve Been Training for This My Whole Life!

I’ve Been Training for This My Whole Life!

In many ways, I’ve always viewed motorcycling as something that is done alone, together. Or just alone. Either way, it has always been an activity in which I exist inside my own little bubble for even when in the company of other riders.

Yamaha FZ07 in Port Jefferson, New York - Long Island

Perhaps that’s why the idea of social distancing hasn’t entirely cramped my ability to get outside and do stuff. I can still ride around and look at things, maybe snaps some pics the way that I normally would.

The nature of my movements has generally been socially distant for many years now. I don’t like people in my personal space, or having them touch me, I don’t like crowds, and I feel best with a helmet on. It isn’t hard for me to keep people 6-feet away at all. Finally, my years of training with social anxiety pay off! ๐Ÿ˜€

While I do get out on day rides, I’m not really interested in traveling and staying in hotels and whatnot, right now. So, that is a little bit of a change for me this year. I don’t foresee wanting to head off on a rideabout this fall or getting on a plane to ride somewhere else. While I’m not happy with the world’s circumstances in general, I’m happy with my choice.

Luckily, I did squeeze in a trip to California to ride around and do SoCal Supermoto School riiiiiight before the pandemic broke loose. That was a great trip. I’m grateful to at least have gotten a little bit of a travel-fix.

While the world is seemingly imploding, I’m still able to find happiness and enjoyment when I’m riding my motorcycle.

Motorcycles – they’re good for you.

How’s things goin’ with you?

Incredible Pokemon Mural – Huntington, New York

Incredible Pokemon Mural – Huntington, New York

Pokemon mural in huntington new york by Andaluz the artist

Where on Long Island is the Pokemon Wall?

You can find the Pokemon Wall painted by Andaluz the Artist in the town of Huntington at: 231 Broadway, Huntington, NY 11743

On Wednesday night, the weather was absolutely perfect for riding. I met up with Brian and we rode our fraternal twinsie FZ07’s out to the town of Huntington, here on Long Island. I wanted to finally see the Pokemon wall mural that is painted on the side of a building in the Greenlawn area.

A pair of Yamaha FZ07s in front of the Pokemon Mural in Huntington, New York

Unfortunately, we didn’t make it before the sun went down so we weren’t able to see everything in its vibrant, full-color glory. It was also a challenge to snap photos of the whole piece in the dark with the floodlight on the side of the building shining so brightly.

But, making lemonade out of lemons ~ the dark of night provided its own sense of drama.

And now that I know where the Pokemon wall mural is, swinging by in the daylight will be easy-peasy. I’m definitely going to do that!

Yamaha FZ07s and Pokemon Mural

The mural is so packed with characters to look at! It provided a wonderfully dramatic photo backdrop for our wee FZs.

The Pokemon Wall

The wall mural was painted in 2016 at the height of the Pokemon Go craze by local artist Andaluz the Artist. You can see his work all over the island, and especially around the town of Huntington.

Yamaha FZ07 at Pokemon Mural in Huntington

Pretty cool, right?!

I think this piece is definitely one of Long Island’s great roadside attractions.

Want to See the Pokemon Mural For Yourself?

Andaluz the Artist
231 Broadway, Huntington, NY 11743
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