While sipping my first cup of coffee this morning, I cracked open the February edition of the AMA magazine.
While reading the Members Letters pages one in particular titled “In This Together” from Travis in Montana stood out for me.
Two articles in the December issue had a common sentiment: whether purchasing a bike or going for a long ride, each fellow had to get his wife’s permission to do it.
Permission always sounds to me like two people aren’t in an equal partnership. I’m certain that the shoe must be on the other foot quite often, where husbands don’t “let” their wives do things, too. Either way… I just don’t understand it. Respecting your relationship and its boundaries should come from within.
Over the years because most of my riding companions have been men, I’ve heard all sorts of flavors of reasons why men had to go home from a ride or couldn’t take a trip. In many cases there has been a perceptible feeling of underlying resentment through a look, a gesture, a tone of voice when the news came down that they had to go home because their wife wanted them to.
If a partner chooses to withdraw from an activity because they would rather be at home? Awesome. But when they’re stricken with guilt or worried about having to put up with the cold shoulder or getting shit from their mate? Forget it.
Let. Just stop it.
Let people be their best, happiest selves. Let yourself be happy to do that.
Do you have any riding friends with mates who don’t “let” them ride whenever they want to?